Id be lying to say this never happened to me or any of my homies but this needs to be discussed today.
So, here you are in the night spot of your choice enjoying a good night with the fellas and possibly inebriated off your favorite vice. You spot a group of fine and qualified ladies and figure it's worth it to dance a bit and make the night more fun. As you approach the circle, the girls look at you like you just walked in on them and popped the question.
....Hold up. I didn't ask you to marry me. Just wanted to dance lady.
It seems like women are getting the idea that they are to good to dance with guys because they feel the man is out for one thing. While a man can be a savage, and I won't deny it, sometimes we just wanna dance with you to have fun in the comapny of the opposite sex. Getting all high and mighty because a man wants to solicit 3 minutes and 40 seconds to dance is a headache no one needs.
It's not a lifetime commitment ladies, its a dance. We didn't make plans to meet the family. Just dance. We weren't going to ask for your number. JUST DANCE.
Lets get back to having fun again. It feels like as the years have gone on, more and more uptight things are happening in establishments where they aren't supposed to. "Dance with a guy tonight at a dance spot? I couldn't imagine. Ill just act like he's crazy for asking...."
....Actually, try giving dudes a chance. I promise you'll have fun
were gonna use Kid and Play for reference. you know. the good days
what you guys deem "dancing" today shouldn't be qualified as such, there in lies the problem. its more like "having sex with a thin layer or clothing" (i.e grinding). we give you this "dance" you seek, and there are MANY guys who believe that there will be a part 2 later that night. now, its certainly not a commitment, but you can't say that often times there aren't expectations on that guys part... expectations that we perhaps weren't looking to fulfill that night or with you (meaning the "savage"... my bad... guy lol). this would explain why some girls may not want to invest in this dance because they are simply not interested nor do they want to mislead... or they might just wanna chill and dance with their girls; no crime in that!
ReplyDeleteI blame the friends just as much.....these "groups" always look to each other for support. If you approach the group....the most miserable one is the one you need to send someone on a covert operation to disengage. We call it jumping on grenades. These grenade types hate life and anyone that is trying to enjoy it. If she isnt getting any love (despite looking and smellling miserable) she feels like none of her girls need love either. Niggas will be niggas....but some dudes are just tryna celebrate the good life. Its these angry chicks that are making hard out here for a pimp.
ReplyDeleteYo WORD UP Ron. To many times the one girl is the say all end all and its like she has some effect over the group. It's just a shame that one of the homies has to disarm her ass in order for the rest to make moves, ESPECIALLY if the dudes aren't trying to take any of the girls home. This is a waste of time, money, and energy dealing with.
ReplyDeleteand Thamar, if its just dance with the girls night, maybe a public venue with a bunch of men isn't where they need to be. To act like its a crime that in a public area and A few guys came up to you trying to dance? Thats just plain old crazy